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A Series of Plot Twists

Today felt like an indie film directed by the universe itself. Every scene had a sudden plot twist, and I was just the confused yet slightly amused main character, improvising my way through.

Plot twist number one: I was supposed to go to Jakarta Premium Outlet to find something to wear for Saturday. But! My husband suddenly had an offline meeting.

Plot twist number two: I wasn’t planning to join him, but he suggested I come along and wait at a café. Better than being home alone, I thought.

Plot twist number three: he assumed the meeting was in Tangerang, just thirty minutes from BSD. Nope. Kuningan. More than an hour’s drive. 

Plot twist number four: Hungry in the car because we’d only had brunch, we planned to grab snacks. But I missed the exit, got sucked into the toll road, and ended up snackless and pretty starving.

Plot twist number five: I landed at one of my favorite places, Erasmus Huis. I read a book in the library and ordered food at the little Dutch café. Just as my order was about to come, my husband called: his meeting was done!

Plot twist number six: I told him to wait so I could finish ordering. Apparently, he didn’t catch that. He was already in front of the building, waiting. Oops.

Plot twist number seven: We decided to search for Rohde shoes at Shoeline, and Maps pointed us to Grand Indonesia. The receptionist checked the tenant list forever but couldn’t find Shoeline anywhere.

Plot twist number eight: Instinct led me to Central Department Store. Victory? Not quite. They had Rohde, but only men’s shoes. Women’s section? Nonexistent.

Plot twist number nine: We drove home and had dinner. I had some plans to catch up on work, but sleep ambushed me at 6 p.m. Two hours later, I woke up groggy but at least recharged.

Plot twist number ten: I didn’t touch the work pile. Instead, I ended up watching French Lover on Netflix with hubby, snacking on jumbo Chiki Balls. The film turned out to be surprisingly good. Then we slept. 

If I could summarize today in one sentence: life is basically a never-ending string of plot twists.

Here’s the thing about plot twists: they keep life interesting, even if they’re mildly annoying in the moment. Most of us like to plan ahead, have a mental picture of how the day should flow, and maybe even anticipate what could go wrong. But the universe seems to enjoy whispering, “Cute. Now watch this.”

Psychologists say our brains are wired to crave predictability. Uncertainty feels threatening because it demands extra mental energy. There’s even research from the journal Nature Communications showing that unpredictability increases stress because the brain can’t easily prepare for what’s next. That’s why even tiny changes in plans can feel exhausting.

But here’s the paradox: plot twists also make us resilient. They force us to adjust, to laugh at the absurdity, to improvise. They remind us we’re not fully in control, and maybe that’s a relief. Author Paulo Coelho once wrote, “Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.” Today I was clearly being tested by the second method.

Instead of resisting the plot twists, maybe the real move is to embrace them as part of the story. After all, what’s a good book or movie without a twist? You’d never stay awake for a story that unfolded exactly as predicted. The detours, the missed exits, the wrong department store... they all become part of the comedy that you’ll retell later with a grin.

So, how do we deal with the plot-twisty nature of life without losing our sanity?

  • Pause before reacting. A missed snack stop isn’t the end of the world (though my stomach begged to differ). Sometimes, a deep breath saves the day.

  • Find the humor. If the shoes don’t exist, maybe it’s the universe telling me to wear the ones I already own. Or just an elaborate test of my patience.

  • Look for the unexpected gift. Because my plans got derailed, I ended up back at Erasmus Huis, reading quietly. Something I probably wouldn’t have done if everything had gone smoothly.

  • Practice flexibility like a muscle. Each little twist is training for bigger ones. Life is less about perfect execution and more about graceful recovery.

As an INFJ, I can easily spiral into “what this all means.” But sometimes it doesn’t mean anything. It just is. A small reminder that control is an illusion, and surrender can be freeing.

Rumi once said, “Do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know the side you are used to is better than the one to come?” And maybe that’s the true wisdom of plot twists: they turn us around just enough to show us a different angle of life.

So tonight, instead of resenting all the changes, I’m oddly grateful. The day gave me stories to tell, snacks to laugh about, and a gentle reminder that flexibility is as valuable as preparation.

To you, my friend reading this: the next time your day flips upside down, maybe try seeing it as the director’s surprise cameo in your movie. Take a bow, improvise your lines, and keep rolling. Because in the end, it’s the twists that make the story worth telling.

What if, instead of fearing detours, we decided to welcome them as secret invitations? To live not just the plan we drew, but the plot that unfolds.

Let’s not just survive our plot twists. Let’s dance with them.

Dancing the twist,
Nuniek Tirta Sari

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