Share the load

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Share the load

I literally shed tears watching the video, coz I know my dad would never be the one who SHOULD write that kind of letter.



My dad set the bar TOO HIGH for any other man to compete his sincerity in sharing household chores with my mom.



He did wash the dishes.
He did the laundry.
He did iron the clothes.
He did drop his children to anywhere.
He did deliver my lunchbox.
He did cook the most delicious fried rice that my kids always missing for (even in front of his graveyard, my kid asked whether he cook it in heaven).
He did come to my room after working for 12 hours every single day, just to ask how am I doing and whether my day went okay.



What he didn’t do was to tell us that NOT every man can be like him, and that it could be the problem when his children compare their spouse to him.



I miss you so much, Papa.

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