The Diary of a CEO's Wife

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Dalam ilmu psikologi, ada yang namanya distorsi kognitif, yaitu berpikiran secara berlebihan dan tidak rasional. Ada 12 macam definisi distorsi kognitif, salah satunya adalah loncatan kesimpulan: membuat penafsiran negatif, walaupun tidak ada fakta yang jelas mendukung kesimpulan tersebut.

Misalnya ketika anak mengatakan “Saya tidak mau A karena B”, namun orang lain BERASUMSI bahwa “Saya tidak mau A karena ORANGTUA SAYA MENGAJARKAN B”. Padahal orangtuanya tidak pernah mengajarkan demikian dan anaknya juga tidak pernah berkata “orangtua saya yang mengajarkan demikian”.

Sehari-hari, tanpa sadar kita sering sekali berasumsi dan mengambil kesimpulan sendiri. Hati-hati, karena asumsi sangat berpotensi menyakiti hati diri sendiri maupun orang lain. Apalagi jika berasumsi tentang orang terdekat karena MERASA bahwa kita telah lama mengenalnya.

So next time we are attempted to make our own assumption, let’s try this crazy method called: asking.

Minggu, 19 April 2015
Nuniek Tirta

Saya Nuniek Tirta, bukan ((hanya)) seorang Istri Direktur

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