What I Learned from Grand Leadership Seminar with JOHN MAXWELL in Jakarta, 22/07/16 Session 2 of 2
“Everything worthwhile in life is uphill. And the only way to go uphill is to be intentional.” ~ John Maxwell
3 words describes intentional living:
- Deliberate
They have thought about what they’re doing. Considering it. - Consistence
Climb, dont slide. Hiking 3 days = sliding 1 day to the point where you started. - Willful
You make a choice to go uphill.
The challenge of every leader is to get people to live in uphill pattern when they feel the downhill lives.
“Most people don’t live their lives, they accept their lives.”
Be Intentional !
- Be intentional in your growth!
Be intentional in your personal growth. Why? It’s impossible to have a better tomorrow unless you’re growing today. Stay the same is not the way to be successful. We automatically get older. But we dont automatically grow/get better. Growth is not automatic. It’s not natural. John’s dad: I dont pay you to do chores, but I’ll pay you to read books. The sign that you’re growing is yesterday doesnt excite you anymore. If yesterday still excite you, you’re in trouble: you’re not growing! - Be intentional in your attitude!
Attitude is a choice. It’s the difference maker. All things being equal to person with good attitude. The issue is not about the problem/challenge, the issue is about the attitude! The moment I determine to be happy is the moment I realize nobody is responsible to my happiness. - Be intentional in your purpose!
What’s your purpose in life? The most important days in your life are the day when you’re born, and the day when you find out the reason why you’re here.
To discover purpose in life, there are 2 paths:
1. What is my passion? What am I passionate about? What do you love? Do what you love, love what you do. The value about passion is it gives you energy. Because 80% of your time will lead to your purpose. Passion is what energizes us. When you find your passion, you will be discipline about it. Ask these questions to yourself: 1. What makes you happy? 2. What do you cry about? 3. What do you dream about? The answers will help you to find your passion in life. Average people want other people to be average people. The only people that have energy for a long period of time are people that have passion. It’s possible to be passionate about something that you’re not good at, but dont make it as a carreer, make it as a hobby.
2. What am I good at? What are my strength? But most people are trained to work on their weakness! If you work on your weakness, you will always be an average. You need to know what you do well. In matters of choice, work on your weaknesses. In matters of skills, work on your strengths. In matters of choice in attitude, work on it if it’s any of your weaknesses.
The life-changing rule of 5: do only 5 most important things everyday. Priority! Focus! Consistent! What do you want to accomplish? Find the right tools.
John’s rule of 5 in writing: Read. Think. File. Ask questions. Write.
It took John 4 years to find his rule of 5 in writing. Find out yours!
The greatest gap in the world is the gap between knowing and doing.
When opportunity comes it’s too late to prepare!
To achieve something great you need good people around you. Teamwork makes the dream work. - Be intentional in your significance.
A person’s significance is the one who adds value to other people. Significance is pretty much about others. Once you’ve tasted significance, success will never satisfy you.
Rule of 5 in significance (things I do everyday to be significant)
- Value people. Because if I value you as a person, I’ll add value to you. It’s the foundation of significance.
- Think of ways to add value to people. When I’m with them, how can I add value to them?
- Look for ways to add value people. We see things as we are, not as they are. 2 people can be in the same experience but they can get very different value. Dont become harvest-focused, become see-focused. Dont become result-focused, become process-focused.
- Add value to people. Who do I add value to today?
- Encourage people to add value to other people.
Experience is NOT the best teacher; but EVALUATED experience is.
The greatest way to learn is by evaluating what you learned and pick which one you would implement in your life.
Now I’ll leave you ponder with these question and implement it in your life:
What I’m passionate about:
What I’m good at:
What my rule of 5 (things I wanna do everyday with my passion & talent):
Have a great, meaningful, intentional life, my dear friends!
Cheers,
Nuniek Tirta
What I learned from Grand Leadership Seminar with JOHN MAXWELL in Jakarta, 22/07/16 Session 1 of 2
John Maxwell is an American author, speaker, and pastor who has written many books, primarily focusing on leadership. He is 69 years old, been married for 47 years. His dad is 94, been married for 67 years before his wife passed away.
Hubby and I bought Gold ticket for his Grand Leadership Seminar in Jakarta last July 22nd 2016, each worth IDR 2,8mio. We went there with other Tiket.com Board of Directors. I equipped myself with bluetooth keyboard to take notes, and here’s what I can share with you.
5 Levels of Leadership
- Position.
Keyword: rights
People follow because they HAVE to.
This is a good place to start, but not a good place to stay. With this level they have authority, but they don’t give choice. Having leadership position doesn’t make us a leader! The problem is: you dont get the energy and time and commitment of people u lead because they’re there just to keep the job. In this level 1 company, people clear the desk right on time when the working hour ends. - Permission.
Keyword: relationship
People follow because they WANT you.
People give you permission to lead them. The energy greatly increased. Energy is related to relationship. When people likes you, they’ll work harder for you. The leader believes the people.
3 things level 2 leaders do well :
1. They listen very well. They are great listener.
2. They learn, observe well, watching people. Why? It’s not what people say, it’s what they do that tells you what you should do.
3. They lead, they serve. They walk beside the people. A servant leader doesn’t use power to lead, but use relationship. They have people work WITH you, not work FOR you. They have workers, not SLAVE. If you’re at the top all alone, you’re not a leader, you’re a hiker. Leaders are defined by how many people with them. Behavior is a culture. Vision in a company is not nearly important as culture. Because culture is what you do, and what you do determine where you go.
“In my 30s leadership, I told people what to do. In my 60s leadership, I ask questions. The first responsible in a leader is to listen to people. Why? You have to find your people before you lead your people. And you find your people by asking questions. I need to understand them by listening to them.” ~ John C Maxwell - Production
Keyword: result
People folow because of what you have done for the ORGANIZATION.
People follow level 3 leader because you’ve been successful and they want to be successful too. Level 3 leadership is about winning. They’re successful. You don’t leave leadership position, you build leadership position from 1 to 5.
3 things level 3 leaders do well:
1. Lead by example. People do by what people see. It’s not what u say, it’s what u do to people that makes u great leader. They understand the power of example.
2. They understand the power of momentum. They not only show people what to do, but create a momentum. When you have positive momentum, people would think the better of they are. To have momentum is leader’s bestfriend. How they create momentum? By results! When you’re winning, nothing hurts. Momentum solves 80% of the problem in ur company. It’s the greatest problem solver in your company!
3. They attract better people. How? We attract what we are, not what we want. Be that person! Too many leaders are like travel agent: they told people to go where themselves never go. - People Development
Keyword: Reproduction; Multiplication.
People follow because of what you have done for THEM.
Level 4 leaders mentor people. People follow them because they made people’s life better.
3 things level 4 leaders do well:
1. They recruit very well. Why? They understand the secret of getting good people. The key? Having clear picture of who you want to hire. When you recruit people, you gotta have picture of what kind of people you want!
2. They position their people well. They put them in the right position.
3. They equip well. They’re good at equipping people. Equipping is essential to be successful.
5 steps of equipping:
1. I do it! Be able to do what you want uour people to do. You better be good at it. Don’t equip people if you’re bad at it, they’ll be as bad as you. 2. I do it and you are with me. If you really wanna equip your people, never do your business all alone by yourself. Always have somebody with you.
3. You coach them, pass the ball to them, they get practice with you.
4. You do it!
5. Secret sauce: you do it and someone is with you, you’ve never equipped someone until they equip someone else.
5. Pinnacle
Keyword: Respect
People follow because of who you are and what you represent.
I did enjoy the seminar very much, and learned a lot more than this note. Will post the Session 2 after this!
Cheers,
Nuniek Tirta