Life is a GIFT; that's why Today is a PRESENT

What I Learned from Grand Leadership Seminar with JOHN MAXWELL in Jakarta, 22/07/16 Session 2 of 2

“Everything worthwhile in life is uphill. And the only way to go uphill is to be intentional.” ~ John Maxwell

3 words describes intentional living:

1. Deliberate
   They have thought about what they’re doing. Considering it.
2. Consistence
   Climb, dont slide. Hiking 3 days = sliding 1 day to the point where you started.
3. Willful
   You make a choice to go uphill.
   

The challenge of every leader is to get people to live in uphill pattern when they feel the downhill lives.

“Most people don’t live their lives, they accept their lives.”

Be Intentional !

1. Be intentional in your growth!
   Be intentional in your personal growth. Why? It’s impossible to have a better tomorrow unless you’re growing today. Stay the same is not the way to be successful. We automatically get older. But we dont automatically grow/get better. Growth is not automatic. It’s not natural. John’s dad: I dont pay you to do chores, but I’ll pay you to read books. The sign that you’re growing is yesterday doesnt excite you anymore. If yesterday still excite you, you’re in trouble: you’re not growing!
   
   
2. Be intentional in your attitude!
   Attitude is a choice. It’s the difference maker. All things being equal to person with good attitude. The issue is not about the problem/challenge, the issue is about the attitude! The moment I determine to be happy is the moment I realize nobody is responsible to my happiness.
   
   
3. Be intentional in your purpose!
   What’s your purpose in life? The most important days in your life are the day when you’re born, and the day when you find out the reason why you’re here.
   
   To discover purpose in life, there are 2 paths:
   1. What is my passion? What am I passionate about? What do you love? Do what you love, love what you do. The value about passion is it gives you energy. Because 80% of your time will lead to your purpose. Passion is what energizes us. When you find your passion, you will be discipline about it. Ask these questions to yourself: 1. What makes you happy? 2. What do you cry about? 3. What do you dream about? The answers will help you to find your passion in life. Average people want other people to be average people. The only people that have energy for a long period of time are people that have passion. It’s possible to be passionate about something that you’re not good at, but dont make it as a carreer, make it as a hobby.
   2. What am I good at? What are my strength? But most people are trained to work on their weakness! If you work on your weakness, you will always be an average. You need to know what you do well. In matters of choice, work on your weaknesses. In matters of skills, work on your strengths. In matters of choice in attitude, work on it if it’s any of your weaknesses.
   
   The life-changing rule of 5: do only 5 most important things everyday. Priority! Focus! Consistent! What do you want to accomplish? Find the right tools.
   
   John’s rule of 5 in writing: Read. Think. File. Ask questions. Write.
   It took John 4 years to find his rule of 5 in writing. Find out yours!
   
   The greatest gap in the world is the gap between knowing and doing.
   
   When opportunity comes it’s too late to prepare!
   
   To achieve something great you need good people around you. Teamwork makes the dream work.
   
   
4. Be intentional in your significance.
   A person’s significance is the one who adds value to other people. Significance is pretty much about others. Once you’ve tasted significance, success will never satisfy you.
   
   Rule of 5 in significance (things I do everyday to be significant)

1. Value people. Because if I value you as a person, I’ll add value to you. It’s the foundation of significance.
2. Think of ways to add value to people. When I’m with them, how can I add value to them?
3. Look for ways to add value people. We see things as we are, not as they are. 2 people can be in the same experience but they can get very different value. Dont become harvest-focused, become see-focused. Dont become result-focused, become process-focused.
4. Add value to people. Who do I add value to today?
5. Encourage people to add value to other people.

Experience is NOT the best teacher; but EVALUATED experience is.

The greatest way to learn is by evaluating what you learned and pick which one you would implement in your life.

Now I’ll leave you ponder with these question and implement it in your life:

What I’m passionate about:

What I’m good at:

What my rule of 5 (things I wanna do everyday with my passion & talent): 

Have a great, meaningful, intentional life, my dear friends!

Cheers,

Nuniek Tirta

Big Bad Wolf Books Sale Jakarta 2016 #BBWB

I was just finished accompanying hubby speak in Indonesia E-commerce Summit & Exhibition in ICE, when I saw some gentlemen were busy setting up display of imported books. I knew they must be preparing for Big Bad Wolf Books, but I didn’t knew that they are the gentlemen behind that world’s greatest book sale!

MY LUCKY DAY !!! Accidentally met the founders of @bigbadwolfbooks Andrew Yap who was setting up the preview with the team for 10 days biggest imported book sale exhibition 📚 #books #sale #bigbadwolfbooks

Sebuah kiriman dibagikan oleh Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 27, 2016 pada 5:21 PDT

It was an honor for me to meet them personally. They even took us to the venue, where I saw 1,5 books were delivered by 40 containers! Along the way from IESE venue to BBWB venue, Andrew Yap explained to us the story behind this fenomenal book sale in Malaysia, and he also introduced us to his wife slash partner, Jacqueline Ng. Very friendly and nice people!

I introduced Andrew to my husband, and also to Ahmad Fuadi, the famous book writer whose book has became a movie. He introduced us to his wife Jacqueline who’s also his partner in @bigbadwolfbooks 📚 #books #sale #exhibition

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 27, 2016 pada 5:35 PDT

And yes, I got the VIP invitation for pre-opening sale of #BBWB for 10 people! See my super happy face!

The best part? I got VIP pass for exclusive preview this Friday, one day before it’s open for public!!! I will surely bring big luggage!!! #books #sale #exhibition

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 27, 2016 pada 5:52 PDT

Of course, I didn’t waste my golden chance. Such a priviledge to be the first among millions of #BBWB visitors! No queue, no mess, no packed crowd yet. And of course, I brought my big luggage with me :)

Let the book hunt begins!! @bigbadwolfbooks #bigbadwolfbooks #jakarta

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 28, 2016 pada 9:32 PDT

I’m officially in heaven when I entered this!

Oh gosh.. *tarik napas dulu @bigbadwolfbooks #bigbadwolfbooks #jakarta

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 28, 2016 pada 9:38 PDT

Heaven for kids too! (But I suggest not to bring them if they’re not negotiatable yet)

Sayang anak sayang anak! Semua di bawah 200rb @bigbadwolfbooks #bigbadwolfbooks #jakarta

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 28, 2016 pada 9:49 PDT

I bought some cool stuffs for presents stocks, enough supply for 1 year :))

Semua jenis Lego Starwars 200rb ajaaa 🙀🙀🙀 Silakan dicek di toko buku berapa harganyaaa 😍😍😍 @bigbadwolfbooks #bigbadwolfbooks #jakarta

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 28, 2016 pada 9:56 PDT

I spent 9 hours in #BBWB from 11pm to 8pm! 2 times break for meals and toilet. I really didn’t care that my cellphone is out of battery since lunch time. After a few hour you’ll get dizzy looking at the books, so have a break outside and enjoy your meal. You can also charge your gadgets in Mandiri booth.

Udah dulu ya laporannyaa.. Mau baca eh belanja duluu.. Besok dibuka untuk umum 30 April - 8 Mei, khusus weekend buka 24 jam! Enjoyyy!! @bigbadwolfbooks #bigbadwolfbooks #jakarta

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 28, 2016 pada 10:04 PDT

Turned out, the medium sized luggage was not enough! Unfortunately I had to eliminate one full trolley because I didn’t want to bring an extra box with me.

Ternyata pemirsa.. Udah bawa koper segede ini masih ngga muat 😅 Terpaksa eliminasi 1 troli lagi 😂 @bigbadwolfbooks #bigbadwolfbooks #jakarta

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 29, 2016 pada 7:13 PDT

But still, I’m happy. From 5mio budget, I only spent less than a half of it for 45 items of (mostly) imported books!

45 items of (mostly) imported books that I bought at pre-opening sale @bigbadwolfbooks #jakarta last Friday, total cost around IDR 2,2mio 👍🏼📚😊

Foto kiriman Nuniek Tirta (@nuniektirta) pada Apr 30, 2016 pada 8:40 PDT

Really looking forward to the next Big Bad Wolf Book Sale! Be it in Jakarta, Bandung, Surabaya, Malaysia, or Bangkok :)

Surat Terbuka Untuk Pak Jonan

Halo Pak Jonan,

Perkenalkan nama saya Nuniek Tirta Ardianto, ibu 2 anak (dari 1 suami, hehe), pengguna setia layanan transportasi berbasis online yang  baru saja semalam  resmi bapak larang.  Pertama  kali    membaca berita itu melalui linimasa sosial media, sungguh saya berharap bahwa itu hanyalah berita bualan dari media online abal-abal yang sering membuat  sensasi demi meraih  traffic. Namun sayangnya tidak.  Bapak benar-benar telah menandatangani  Surat Pemberitahuan Nomor UM.3012/1/21/Phb/2015  yang melarang pengoperasian “kendaraan bermotor bukan angkutan umum dengan menggunakan aplikasi internet untuk mengangkut orang dan/atau barang “ dengan alasan tidak memenuhi ketentuan  Undang-Undang Nomor 22 Tahun 2009 Tentang Lalu Lintas dan Angkutan Jalan serta Peraturan Pemerintah Nomor 74 Tahun 2014 Tentang Angkutan Jalan. 

(Sumber foto: linimasa)

Dalam sekejap, seisi  linimasa penuh sumpah serapah. Segenap  warga dunia maya Indonesia kecewa.  Tak terkecuali saya, yang sejak membaca berita itu tadi malam belum juga bisa tidur sampai pagi ini. Karena agama saya mengajarkan jangan berbuat dosa ketika marah, dan jangan memendam amarah sampai matahari terbenam, baiklah saya tuliskan ini sekarang.

Pak, kita  sama-sama tahu bahwa tidak ada yang abadi di dunia ini selain perubahan, dan sejarah membuktikan bahwa menentang perubahan adalah sia-sia. Perkenankan saya ajak Pak Jonan memasuki mesin waktu, dan menerawang masa-masa di mana inovasi yang membawa perubahan begitu ditentang… 

Ø  15 September 1830,  kereta  api penumpang pertama kali resmi beroperasi. Raja Inggris yang meresmikan jalur Liverpool - Manchester saat itu banyak menuai protes dari para petinggi; para tentara takut nanti prajuritnya jadi pada malas, para tabib khawatir nanti ibu-ibu hamil bisa keguguran, bahkan para pejabat khawatir nanti keretanya bakal meledak. Manalah mereka kepikiran  kalau 134 tahun kemudian orang Jepang bisa bikin  kereta  peluru alias Shinkansen  yang mampu melesat sampai 130 mph. Ah, saya percaya sebagai mantan Dirut PT KAI bapak pasti sudah pernah tahu cerita sejarah ini dong ya. Lanjutt…

Ø  Tahun 1986, ketika  ATM pertama kali digunakan di Indonesia oleh Hong Kong Bank dan Bank Niaga, tidak terlalu banyak yang mau memakainya untuk bertransaksi, hingga awal 1990an. Saya masih ingat ketika salah satu stasiun radio membahas secara khusus kehadiran ATM dan dampaknya terhadap masyarakat. Salah satu yang paling melekat di ingatan saya adalah ketika penyiar mengatakan bahwa kehadiran ATM ini bisa memicu pemborosan, karena masyarakat dapat mengambil uang sesuka hati mereka, dan ini diamini oleh para pendengarnya. Belum lagi kekhawatiran mereka soal keamanan.  Sekarang, ada 90 juta pengguna ATM di seluruh Indonesia, bahkan diprediksi tahun depan menjadi 125 juta.  Banyak yaaa. 

Ø  Tahun 1994, internet pertama kali hadir di Indonesia  dibawa oleh IndoNet selaku ISP komersial pertama di negeri ini. Lagi-lagi pro kontra tentang perubahan ini dibahas di radio, kali ini saya ingat betul  radionya adalah Prambors. Kala itu, penyiar bertanya kepada pendengar tanggapan mereka tentang pengaruh internet terhadap anak muda. Concern utama tentunya adalah masuknya pornografi di kalangan muda melalui internet dan pergaulan bebas. Ada juga yang khawatir tagihan telepon membengkak, maklum jaman itu masih pakai dial up :)) Sekarang, saya dan  88 juta pengguna internet di Indonesia  menikmati betul  manfaat positif internet. 

Ø  Tahun 2000,  layanan SMS (Short Message Service) mulai marak di Indonesia. Wah senangnya Pak, saya bisa SMS-an sama gebetan pakai HP Nokia banana warna warni yang paling hits saat itu :) Karena baru bisa sesama operator, ada lho Pak gebetan yang bela-belain beli nomor baru yang waktu itu harganya masih ratusan ribu (tanpa pulsa! #eaaa =)) Baru setahun kemudian dibukalah SMS lintas operator, dan lagi lagi terjadi pro kontra. Karena saya memang penggemar radio, kembali lagi mendengar bahasan topik SMS lintas operator ini di radio. Yang pro senang karena komunikasi semakin lancar. Yang kontra bilang kehadiran SMS lintas operator ini berpotensi bikin orang-orang jadi tidak peduli sekitar karena asik SMS-an. Manalah mereka tau kalau tidak sampai satu dekade kemudian orang-orang lebih asik main FB dan twitteran =))

Sekarang mari kita kembali ke dimensi saat ini, Desember 2015… Di mana Menteri Perhubungan Republik Indonesia mengeluarkan kebijakan melarang penggunaan segala layanan transportasi berbasis online. Apa artinya? Artinya… Mungkin saya terpaksa harus mempekerjakan sopir lagi dan menambah kemacetan Jakarta dengan mobil pribadi , sebab angkutan umum yang legal seperti angkot dan metromini sangat tidak memadai. Tapi bukan itu, bukan itu poin yang membuat saya prihatin dengan keputusan sepihak tanpa sosialisasi dari Bapak.  

Yang lebih membuat saya prihatin adalah… Bagaimana nasib 200.000 pengemudi gojek , 12 ribu pengemudi Uber,  2000 pengemudi GrabTaxi, dan ribuan pengemudi ojek konvensional lainnya yang tiba-tiba kehilangan mata pencarian, menambahkan jumlah 7,2 juta pengangguran di Indonesia. Bagaimana nasib ribuan karyawan penyedia aplikasi online tersebut. Bagaimana nasib sopir Uber yang mengantarkan saya ke mampang, yang terpaksa banting setir dari pemilik perusahaan menjadi pengemudi untuk menyambung hidup karena perusahaannya bangkrut… Dan ribuan orang lainnya yang tertolong hidupnya berkat kehadiran berbagai aplikasi online ini.

Pak, bagaimana sesuatu dapat dikatakan melanggar peraturan, kalau aturannya sendiri saja belum ada. Bapak sendiri yang bilang “Ojek nggak bisa disebut transportasi umum karena nggak diatur dalam undang-undang,” Namun sekarang bapak justru membuat peraturan yang mematikan rejeki ribuan orang dan melawan perubahan jaman. Ada baiknya Bapak mengamati sikap elegan Menteri Transportasi Singapura terkait masalah sharing economy concept yang dibawa Uber dan GrabTaxi:

“Some countries, like Germany, have banned uber and its likes.  Some like, New York, tried to ban it at first but have now decided to hold back in response to commuters’ unhappiness.  I think they have over-reacted and have been hasty in their judgement on such new business concepts. A balanced approach is called for.

…

We must not resist new innovations and new business models.  Our instinct must be to flow with the time, keep an open mind to innovations.  But we must always be fair to players, whether incumbent or insurgents, and strike a balanced approach.”

Perlu dicatat, itu Singapura lho Pak, negara yang terbukti sudah mampu menyediakan sistem transporatasi massal yang memadai bagi rakyatnya. Sedangkan Indonesia… Ah, sudahlah. 

Semoga saja, ketika beberapa tahun ke depan saya membaca kembali tulisan ini, saya sudah bisa tersenyum sendiri mengingat how funny an over-reaction could be when one is facing a new innovation that brought changes to people’s life, like those stories on our time-travel above. 

Have a good day Sir.

Jumat, 18 Desember 2015 07.00 WIB

Nuniek Tirta Ardianto –  www.nuniek.com